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Change can be especially painful when it's not planned for and like a kick to a house of cards, it throws the careful order we've built into our lives into disarray.
On the other hand, I recently watched a documentary called Varanasi, India: "Beyond" and in this film the interview with an aghori sadhu touched a chord within me for some reason. The sadhu mentioned that everything was an illusion. No surprise there. It's a concept that's pretty much standard fare for Buddhism and other esoteric religions.
And then the sadhu continued by saying that because everything is illusion, everything is subject to change. The people around us, the things we own, even the buildings and structures themselves could all be gone in an instant, because that is precisely what underlines the impermanence of this reality.
So this begs the question, if an individual resists change and cannot accept it, does it mean that person is more enmeshed in maya than the one who can embrace change or at least not unduly agonize over it?
And so we find ourselves at the heart of what esoteric spiritual practices have been teaching us for all these ages: detachment. Detachment allows us to more easily embrace the inevitable change that life brings.
Careers can end, friends will move on, loved ones will pass, even our bodies will eventually be gone. It's simply inevitable, but detachment should allow us to experience those changes without getting hitched on the idea of what we have lost but rather to accept that it simply is and move on and adapt from there.
It's not a comfortable thought, but if it was easy then we wouldn't need lifetimes to mark the way along our trek to enlightenment.